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Here is a letter from someone who has not posted in a while.  The person comes from a small Iranian village that has seen dramatic modernization in the last 20 years, with many people leaving to move to the big city or abroad.  I thought it would be interesting for readers to see how dynamic life is in Iran, just as it is everywhere else.   These are the details we don’t hear about on the news, but the real meat and potatoes of life.  All names have been changed to English names:

Last night we went to Bob’s wedding. Bob is Aunt Jane’s son.  He married a girl who is very different from him and 5 years older.  His parents urged them to wait at least a year before marrying, but it did not help. so pray for them.

Your cousin was accepted to university in pharmacy and traditional drugs (Persian Herbal Medicine).   She is so happy and beautiful and of course married to a nice boy, a phd candidate.

Uncle Joe is divorced for 2 years looks better now.  His wife was not there so i was saved because in all weddings i am stuck sitting next to her for ever.

Becky is divorced which is very good news. she was unhappy with her no good husband. she is working in a beauty salon and lives in tehran.  Saam divorced his wife and their little baby lives with her mother and visits him on weekends.  Sara is wonderful her kids are so big and tall and successful and the oldest is in college.  She caters school lunches with good homemade food.

Joe is as over weight as ever and has a little boy. the boy is the cutest ever.  Jack is very happy with his beautiful wife and they are awaiting their visa from England. They are great kids.

Tom works for his uncle and is very happy with his cellular phone and a car up graded with big wheels.

that is all for now

Yesterday a Muslim psychiatrist in the United States Army shot thirteen soldiers at the Army Base in Fort Hood.  I  would like to express my deep sadness for the life lost and for the families who lost a loved one.

A few red flags are raised for me.  Muslim American groups have condemned his action and have emphasized that Islam does not condone violence.  I am concerned, however, that the Muslim community is not being honest with itself about the different groups that exist, and the fact that some may be quite radical and quite pro-violence.  The shooter may have been a lone and crazed person, that is true.  But we need to examine whether or not his religious beliefs encouraged this behavior.

Part of the reason why there is not a more honest debate, I am guessing, is because people are afraid.  For example, I am much more afraid of blogging critically about Islam in general, than I am blogging about the Iranian government.  And that is because fundamentalists around the world have very clear and (to me) arbitrary definitions of what is and what is not permissible to say, and are very bold in their belief that they can limit other’s freedom of speech.  So who knows who you may anger and what they will do to you.  The fact that they have the power to make people self-censor myself already speaks to the negative power of fundamentalism.

I am not saying it is necessarily Muslim Fundamentalism, but fundamentalism that is the problem.

This is happening in the context of popular uprisings in Iran, where the civil population is trying to diffuse fundamentalists who are in charge of government and military.  [Note, the religious beliefs of the Iranian government and Sunni groups such as Taliban and AlQuieda are very different; they are in fact hostile enemies, but they are fundamentalist none-the-less].  In Iran intolerance spread because non-radicals were too afraid to nip it in the bud.  Now, Iranians are using their physical bodies to shield the world from this horrible thing — religious extremism, fundamentalism.

This is a global battle for all of us, between being reasonable and fundamentalist, being humane and rigid.

The other red flag this raised is the fact that mentally unstable people seem to be slipping between the cracks.  I am concerned that there are no more communities of people who can be alarmed that one person is out of the ordinary and needing intervention.  So then it all explodes.

From Iran today:

November 4, 2009 Battle 13 Aban

Number 2 boy stayed home from school today. Neither he nor I were in the mood for slogans.

Number 1 boy had an exam in the middle of the day, so, wearing a bright green scarf, I agreed to take him first thing in the morning and see what the atmosphere was like in school and if it was tolerable.  The principal in the middle school had assured me that while they would discuss the historical significance of this date, they would not make the kids shout anti-US slogans. I told him I would sit and watch and if I did not like what was going on I would leave with my son. Everything proceeded smoothly until one of the English teachers gave a short political speech in English and ended by calling on the kids to say “Down with America” three times. As he led the chant the 400 or so school kids responded half-heartedly once and twice. By the third time the principal had whispered something into the teacher’s ear and the teacher dropped the chanting.

After that the religious character-building teacher informed the kids that the Middle School Basij students would join their fellow Iranian compatriots in chanting political slogans, but that they would not go out into the streets, but chant during recess in school. Well, when morning assembly was over I asked number 1 son what he would like to do and he said, “Go home.” So we informed the principal that we would come back later in the morning to sit the exam and that he would then leave.

We drove home. Our drive to and from my son’s school involves passing by the front of the Shiraz University Student Dorms. At 6:50 am when we passed by first some Sepah (IRCG) police and soldiers were already stationed across the square from the student dorm complex. The second time we passed by the same area, a few more security personnel had gathered. But there was nothing going on in the streets or in the dorms at that time.

I drove home with my son and waited for his exam. Later I dropped him off and went back home again. The third time I left my house I took number 2 son with me as I planned to drop my kids off at my parent’s house before going to a quick dental appointment before lunch.

When number 2 and I went to pick up number 1 son the streets were still quiet. The soldiers and Sepah were positioned, but there was no action. We went to the school. The school bell took longer than anticipated to ring. We waited, 10 minutes, 20 minutes. The bell rang. My son came out with his bag and by 30 minutes after our entry we left the school. Well so much time had passed that I could no longer drop them off at grandmas and still be on time for the dental appointment. So I mentioned that since they each had books to read, they could tag a long with me and then we’d all go to grandma’s together.

We jumped into the car and drove off toward home (and the dental office) on the usual route – the route that takes us onto Baghe-Eram Blvd and past the student dorms. When we entered Baghe-Eram we saw that in addition to the Sepah and soldiers were the special black-wearing anti-riot police we had seen his summer. They almost look like evil cartoon villains with their black clothes from head to foot, helmets and eye cover, and tons of built in padding in their clothes to protect them from hits and probably bullets. They look like super strong but skinny muscley, muscle-men.

Cars were backed up for miles and many of them were honking their horns. At first I did not see people on the streets. I turned into the street and kept hearing honking. Then I saw them. Almost directly in front of me the guards were beating up some young men. One looked dazed. He was seated on a motorcycle between two of these villains dressed in black. Another student was being beaten with a baton and dragged toward a white van that when I looked was already full of young people. People were honking but these thugs kept going about their business. I started yelling at them and cursing at them to leave the young men alone. They were right in front of my car. We couldn’t move for a few seconds. I turned to see both of my boys crying and screaming. They were seeing everything. I lay on the horn. A Basiji man approached me in a very aggressive manner and asked me why I was honking my horn. I said (in Farsi), ‘Because you are beating up other people’s children in front of my children!!! Look at what you are doing to them!!!!!’ And I pointed toward my sons. I kept honking and he yelled at me to move on. I did (in my own aggressive manner) and rounded the square (is that possible?). As I went around I kept honking as many people were. A truck next to me was honking too. Our eyes met and he encouraged me to keep honking. I kept it up and then he turned me in! An officer approached my car and demanded to see my license. I told him I didn’t have one. He told the guy next to him to remove my front license plates. They couldn’t. Three of them tried to take them off and they couldn’t. The first guy again demanded my driver’s license. Again I shouted back I didn’t have one. They told me to pull over. I said I wouldn’t and with that started moving forward. One Basiji stood in front of my car but I kept moving forward. So many cars were honking and so much other stuff was going on that he finally moved and I sped off. My sons were screaming that I’d better go fast or they would get us, but no one followed us. I am sure they recorded my plates. We shall see what happens.

I took off towards home and called for my hubby to join us to the dental office as the kids really needed him.  So he dressed in a flash and got in the car where everyone told him what had transpired. We all tried to calm each other down. He was very good with the kids.

We made it to the dentist’s office only 1/2 hour late! And he took care of me. While talking with the boys they expressed that it was the first time they had actually seen someone being beaten.  They cried and screamed and did not like it at all. I also reminded my son that ultimately, this is what the Basiji’s are being trained for. It is NOT the Boy Scouts! The reality sank in. My other son couldn’t think of enough swear words with which to describe those in charge.

We then picked up my daughter and headed back to my mom’s for lunch. We though we’d go a calmer route. Well, traffic was backed up in the entire city it seemed. We couldn’t go anyway except back past the student dorms. This time things were different. While we did not see anyone getting beaten up, we saw hundreds of young people shouting, “Marg bar Dictator”. I believe it was a smaller group than had gathered just before we reached there judging from other peoples’ comments. On the other side of the street behind the student dorm fence hundreds of students had gathered and were chanting, “Ya Hossein, Mir Hossein” for Mousavi.  Black meshed up trucks were sitting there waiting to transport prisoners. Thousands of people were milling in the streets. Many people were wearing green today. Green people would honk at and wave to strangers wearing green in a sign of solidarity.

I heard later that there were protests 30 Metry Saadi Street. I also heard that in the Maali Abad area last night a lot of people were chanting “Allahu-Akbar”.

I am sure we will hear more in the days to come.  At 3 pm things had still not quieted down at the dorms.

LA Times picture today showing "A man" running in an Iranian protest today. This is not a man, this is a child. All over the world, our children fight the battles we are too afraid to fight.

From Iran today:

Friday, October 16, 2009 Ripples in the Tide

We went to a roller hockey game today. It was fun. And it was a thrill to be participating in a sport from outside the country. Both teams were pretty good and were trying out for spots on the national team.

While the game was a lot of fun, the fans made it even more fun. But, what hockey game is really complete without its fans? Anyway, from the beginning to the end of the game a group of about 14 (and at times up to 25) guys (somewhere between their 20s and 30s) had us cracking up (this is from about 50 fans total).  When they first entered the arena about 4 gals were part of their group. They were all told the gals had to sit separate from the guys. This is common in Iran where single people are concerned. They usually have a family section for mixed family groups. So, this group split up with some mild protests, but overall good natured, and went to their respective sections. Along the way the guys were chanting (in a sing-songy way), “Marg bar Dictator! Marg bar Dictator!” (Death to the Dictator) It was loud enough for our section to hear, but not loud enough to disrupt the event and bring out authorities.

As the teams warmed up, the group of guys cheered and did the wave and had a great time just being rowdy and fun. When the teams got ready to start the game, one team did a group chant that ended with “Team” while the other team ended with “Ya Hossein” (for Emam Hossein) to which these guys responded loudly (but not too loudly) “Mir Hossein” (for Mousavi).

During the game everyone just concentrated on the players and had a great time cheering. At the end the teams were tied. There was no run-off or penalty hits or anything. One guy responded to our questions about the game, “Well, they are supposed to tie, aren’t they?” (I found out later that day from my dad that in a big soccer game up in Tehran between the two big national teams the teams were told to tie, and not for one to win, in order to keep the crowds from getting out of control and all frenzied. The gum’t did not want a win or loss to be an excuse for people to protest or let their rage out. So the comment about our game was pointed at that move).

At the end of the game some officials addressed the teams away from the fans. I guess we were making too much noise because one of the refs asked us to quiet down. One young man responded, “In honor of your green shirt, we will quiet down.”

Wednesday, October 21, 2009 The Eventual Outcome

A few days later, in an unrelated incident, I overheard a young lady talking with someone else. She was saying that while her husband is not a religious fanatic, he always observed certain Muslim rituals over the years, including fasting throughout Ramadan. This year, following the election fiasco, she noticed that he was not fasting. She asked him what was going on. He responded that he was no longer going to fast or do anything related to the religion. He said that the actions by the government this summer made him wonder if Iranians had adopted Islam way back hundreds of years ago under the same force and duress. His conclusion was – yes – therefore, he could no longer follow along. This young man is 27 years old – a child of the revolution and its entire system.

Another story I heard was that last week during Military Week a man went to an office building on business in Tehran. In the basement was a military booth. Military people were passing out flowers and cookies to passers-by and people awaiting business meetings. This man refused everything. Someone who had accepted the cookies and flowers asked if this man was angry. He responded something to the affect that these flowers and cookies come from the same people who had stolen the vote and killed numerous innocent Iranians this summer. Everyone around looked at each other. Then they all gave back the flowers and cookies and no one else would accept them from the military after that.

This story is from an older woman who still goes to the mosque to pray. She said that these days people are out and about and gathering in the mosques just to be together and to talk. She said that many of the religious clergy are no longer praying for the health of the leaders of this country, specifically Khamenei – that they are silent. And the old people complain to no end about the government and curse them for killing the youth. She says the atmosphere in the mosques is very volatile.

Thursday, October 22, 2009 Ripple, Ripple, Ripple

I learned today that three weeks ago a university student organization was showing the film Ice Age 3. So a lot of university students attended. At the door the young men and women were told to sit separately, in the Mens and Womens’ sections. It seems there were a lot of protests and fights even broke out. Eventually though, the students were forced to segregate. One person remarked, “As if people come to see the films! These poor students just want to spend an hour or so sitting next to their girlfriends!”

Wednesday, October 28, 2009 Undercurrents

Almost everyday there is another story. On a walk to my daughter’s school a cab of five young elementary school girls (all dressed in their pink uniforms with their pink headscarves) passed a wall with “Mousavi” written on it. As they passed the graffiti the girls started yelling at the top of their lungs, in unison, “Mousavi! Mousavi! Mousavi!”! They were still chanting as the cab drove out of earshot.

My son was standing in line to buy a snack at school when some kids walked by saying, “Marg bar Dictator” (death to the Dictator) under their breaths.

A cab driver I rode with the other day compared the current regime here to the Mongols. In fact, he condemned this government as being WORSE than the Mongols. According to Persians, the worst parts of their history are the invasion of the Mongols, the sacking of Persepolis by Alexander, the rule of Tamerlane (and increasingly these days, the Arab invasion of the country through Islam). So for someone to consider this government as WORSE than the Mongols is saying a lot.

Many people we speak with on the street feel that this government has shown its true face and is on its way out. Many people believe it will happen soon – but unfortunately, not without a tremendous amount of bloodshed.

Another young man I overheard complained about the intrusion of this government into weddings. He said one has to get 20 signatures to hold a wedding in a public place; then they give you a music tape to play (you can’t choose your own) and then they pour into the wedding party itself to make sure men and women aren’t mixing. He was so angry. He said he had travelled to Turkey and East Asia and enjoyed their freedoms and relative lack of stress (compared with Iran). He was trying to find a way out permanently. He said he was always so depressed that he had to return to Iran after his trips abroad.

Someone told me a story about going to the bazaar to buy fruit a day or so ago. He said when he went to buy the fruit a bystander quoted a poem that said “You drink the blood of people, while I drink the blood of grapes.” With this poem he was indicating his thoughts on the current situation.

People are anticipating November 4, the anniversary of the U.S. Hostage taking. In Iran it is celebrated as “Student’s Day”. This year however, they are trying to intimidate the students and everyone else. People are calling for protests, but the population knows that the government will show no mercy. No one is sure what will happen that day – but everyone wonders.

It just goes on and on and on ………….

Here’s a joke I heard recently: Adam Noah and Satan were having a conversation. Adam claimed that he was God’s greatest creation. Noah claimed he was the longest living man. Satan claimed he was the biggest liar – the most dishonest and devious creation of God. They argued a lot and finally agreed to ask God himself if their claims were valid. So Adam got a private audience with God. He was in the room for 5-10 minutes when he came out and said, “God agreed that I am his greatest creation.” Noah went in next and spent about 15-20 minutes with God. He finally came out and said, “God agreed that I am the longest living man on Earth.” Then Satan went to talk with God. A half-hour passed; 45 minutes passed. An hour passed when Satan finally came out of the audience hall. He put his hands on his hips and said, very indignantly, “Who is this Ahmadinejad?!?!”

October 31, 2009 Family Schisms and Some Perspective Please!

I came upon an article today (written in the Guardian a few days ago) about a young woman whose father is one of Ahmadinejad’s advisors – Kalhor. Anyway, this young woman is a film maker and showed a recent film of hers, The Rake, at the Nuremberg Human Rights Festival. Well, it seems her friends are afraid she will be arrested on her return to Iran. So she has requested asylum in Germany. Like the Puritans centuries ago, it is the children and grandchildren of the founders of the government who are breaking with their parents’ way of life. When I shared this story with some people, one young Iranians’ perspective was that life was so unfair. Here is a young woman who has grown up with all the privileges that come with being connected to power. And now she is fighting it and she gets to go to Germany and claim asylum, while many average Iranians who have not had those privileges and have wanted to leave for a lifetime still have no chance of leaving!

About a week or so ago I was driving on Chamran Blvd when I came across a police blockade on Zargari Bridge. It is highly unusual to have a blockade there. I also observed two motorcycles with two soldiers on each pass me by quickly and make a U-turn. Later that morning I had the opportunity to ask someone who lives in that area what had happened. He replied that someone had robbed the Sepah Bank on Zargari Street. Then he added, “It was probably 3 of their own officers who robbed the bank and they’re going to catch some poor, innocent bastards and pin it on them.” He thought it highly unlikely that, with all the police and military and Sepah presence on the streets, anyone but one of their own would dare to rob a bank these days!!!

Monday, November 02, 2009 Death to America Day Approaching (a.k.a. Student’s Day in Iran)

Some calls for people to march on 13 of Aban. Some walls are very active with one side writing grafitti like “Ma Hastim” (We’re Here) and the other side crossing it out and writing over it “Amadeem, Naboodid” (We Came, You Weren’t Here).  Another wall said, “Ma Hastim” to which the other side added “Ba Veladat to Shahadat” (With the Religious Leaders until Death). One wall said, “Na Shargh, Na Gharb, Jonbesheh Sabze Melli” (Neither East nor West, Only the National Green Movement). Things are not static.

The title, sent to me by my Shiraz contact today, is sarcastic.  There is no official Down with America Day in Iran.  Nov 4 is Student’s Day.  Traditionally, on Students Day, the Islamic Republic and supporters arrange school and street demonstrations, and incite Down with America chanting during those demostrations.

This publicity stunt is fabricated and not an accurate portrayal of popular Iranian sentiment regarding the United States.  However, as a propaganda tactic it has worked for years.  The image of Iranians as rabid America-haters has dominated Western media coverage of Iran.   Until the June 2009 uprising, this image fueled much of the world’s hatred back towards Iran.  When the world hates Iranians, it becomes easier for the regime to justify their repressive tactics.  As long as they seem like underdogs, they can pretend they have no choice but to use a heavy hand.

Unfortunately for the Islamic Republic, their population is now awake, and no longer afraid.  They are not playing out the scripted publicity stunt.  I already see footage of amazingly brave students refusing to chant “Down with America” and instead, chanting “Down with Dictator [ie Ahmadinejad],” or “Down with Russia” (because Russia has accepted Ahmadinejad as Iran’s president) coming from Iran.  They are doing this to the faces of their school administrators!  It is a clever and intelligent way to rebel, by taking the hatred-propaganda machine of the Islamic Republic and turning it back on them.  It is also extremely dangerous as their identities are clear.

(Don’t see the relevance between students and the downfall of the US?  It is connected because of the student-led take over of the US Embassy on November 4,1979.  But really, the attachment of “student” to “down with America”  is double-speak of Orwellian proportions.  The U.S. Hostage Crisis is an embarrassment in Iranian history and there is no reason students should continue to be forced to feel proud, involved in, or responsible for it).

(This video shows high school students in Iran chanting against the religious regime.  Long live youth!)

Student protests in Iran yesterday.  Cannot believe how brave they are.

Mid-way they are chanting “turn of the cameras.”  I am assuming they are calling for surveillance cameras to be shut off.

They are also chanting “Marg Bar Dictator.”  Which means death to or down with dictator (Ahmadinejad).  We need to stop chanting Marg bar.  Our weakness is not passion or bravery.  It is self-restraint.  We need to create a new future without death.  Time to stop chanting about death.  Time to chose life.  The only way forward is life.

Please see these posts on the topic:

We are all one?  I walked in the wrong march

Are we ready for Azady/ Freedom?

Hoping to influence you brave tweeters, no more marg bar

From Iran today:

Yes, there are many mothers (and fathers) who do not like the system. But most people here feel helpless to change the situation. and many feel that if they complain the school will take it out on their kids. So they remain silent and eventually find a way to get their kids out of the country. There is a huge brain flight from Iran (which has been going on for years). Many people leave for themselves, but many leave to save their kids.

The school officials are also not always totally to blame as they have horrendous requirements placed upon them that they are required to fulfill – requirements not appropriate for children. I am getting ready to homeschool if I have to. It would require a huge change in my life here this year, but all of our sanities are much more important than anything else. One of our friends here homeschooled her son in 4th grade because of problems in the school. She found a better place for him in 5th grade. We’ll see.

We have a tutor who likes working with our kids and is a teacher in my son’s school. She said she’d talk with the teacher herself. As for the rest of it – I’ll put up a fuss. That usually brings about some positive results – but not many.

One of the biggest problems here is the isolation Iran has created for itself.  While many people know theoretically how to create better schools for the kids and how to teach better, the people who actually have to put it into practice were all trained under such a system and have no clue how to do it differently. So even though you train a teacher, because he or she has not seen anything different, they don’t know how to do it (or that it can even be done differently or better). Most people who go overseas go for engineering or medicine, or some “important” degree. No one goes overseas to study education. While education is highly valued here, teaching itself is not a valued profession in this country, nor is it an even decently paid profession. If people could get out and about and see it done differently that would go a long way to improve the entire system here. But again – the government does not want any “cultural invasion” going on – even if it would benefit their children – and of course, forced religion is part of the system here and while it has never worked any place else in the long term, they would never accept that.

My son exploring Iran's natural glory.  This is learning.

My son exploring Iran's natural glory. This is learning.

Today my friend writes about the struggle in an Iranian school to get children to behave, sit still, memorize and stop “rebelling.”  In the context of a repressive society like Iran’s, it’s easy to ridicule this behavior as forced captivity.   But, before readers get self-righteous, look around your own world, and how the children near you are treated.  Are they allowed to be children, or are they being forced into subjugation in the name of learning and test taking?

I post this with respect for my friend for being an amazing mom who is willing to stick up for her children given incredible pressures.  These issues would cripple me if I were dealing with them, but not only does she deal with them, she has the presence of mind to reflect and write about them.

Wednesday Oct 21, 2009.  School Sucks!  For kids and moms!

I went to my 4th grader’s school meeting today. It is the big meeting of the year where the school officials introduce all the key people, go over last years highlights and discuss their goals for the new year.

The meeting started off with lots of Koran reading and religious singing of course. After that some kids came up and read poems about being kind to children, listening to them, not forcing them to do things inappropriate for their ages. Then the president of the school spoke. He heads the elementary, middle and high school. And during his discussion with us he frankly admitted that the youth of Iran are rebelling and acting out and not listening to their parents and are uncontrollable. And furthermore, he admitted that the department of education, and the country as a whole, has no clue as to what to do about it. He mentioned that 60 years ago Iran did not have runaway children – whereas they do now, in significant numbers. We have a major drug problem too. He could not understand how in such an educated society we could have so many problems with our youth. His biggest complaint (and I just about fell off my chair in hysterics) was that young kids go off to college – and choose their own marriage partners without their parents consent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I guess we know what is going on in his home, don’t we? My spouse and I just shook our heads and laughed (a sarcastic, low, unbelieving – with a shake of the head – laugh).

Here’s a typical synopsis of one day in the life of my 4th grader at school here (yesterday). Can you figure out where the roots of rebellion stems from in this society? My 9 year-old woke up at 6:30 am, ate his breakfast and got ready for school. The cab (there are no school busses here because they can’t afford them) picked him up at 7:40 am and he was in an assembly line at school by 7:50 am. There he stood in line until 8:15 am when they all marched into class. During those 25 minutes in line the kids went through 5 minutes of warm-up exercises. Then they had to repeat verses from the Koran and sing the Islamic Republic anthem and say their prayers. All the while school personnel were walking up and down the lines of 1st – 5th graders yelling at them for not reciting these things loud enough, for not reciting in unison, for fussing and fidgeting. So, with this uplifting start to their day, the kids then marched up to class.

I went to school during the third hour (of a 5-hour day) to teach him English (the English classes here are so basic that I have special permission to teach him English at his level). When I got there I was informed that the 4th graders were taking an 80 minute “Andishmand” exam and that he would not be available that day. I reminded the school official that I did not want my child sitting for exams geared at getting him into the Magnet school (teezhooshan) system here; that I just wanted him learning what a 4th grader should know (we have had many discussions about this with these same school officials over the years). He assured me that this wasn’t such an exam and that this would help teach him how to take tests. So, having had to give up my English time I returned home. (When my son returned home with the exam booklet, printed prominently on the cover was, “Andishmand – Teezhooshan Exam” – what a lying son-of-a-#$%#^!)

Later that morning, my son’s teacher gave them a pop science quiz. It seems sometimes that that is all they do here – administer quizzes, tests and exams. The actually teaching seems to take place at home in the stressful environment between mothers and children. (As an aside, my son has done his school work here with a lot of difficulty until this year. This year he actually does his work without any prodding from me and even does extra – I couldn’t be more pleased.) Anyway, my son got a 13 out of 20 on his quiz. Well, it seems she lit into him and yelled at him and told him he’d better get a better grade next time because she is used to hitting kids if they don’t do well. (Hitting kids has been illegal in this country since the late Shah’s time – but this teacher has been teaching for over 20 years now!) Needless to say, my son came home crying and refusing to go to school anymore. And frankly, after knowing that he was yelled at all morning, had to sit an 80 minute teezhooshan exam, then take a pop quiz, and then get threatened over it (and not be allowed to run in the yard at recess on top of it all) I was only too glad to let him stay home today.

The ironic part of all this is that today’s lesson in 4th grade was all about Children’s Rights. In their book it says that the Prophet Mohammad told people to love children and to treat them with kindness and to keep the promises they made to children. Their lesson also stated that children have the following rights: to learn about other cultures and to live in peace and friendship with the other children of the world; and, to express their thoughts to others freely through speech or writing and to listen to other peoples’ opinions as long as they respected other people’s rights. No one has the right to force children to do anything not appropriate for their age; and, conditions must be provided so that children can learn about and understand the world around them and help to protect it (environmentally). These come from the U.N. Charter for Children’s Rights. Well, the first thing my son commented on (rightly) was that his teacher did not show him kindness when she threatened him and that she was forcing him to do way more than is appropriate for his age (she gave GOBS of homework that night – even I got tired). In school they learn NOTHING about other cultures or beliefs or countries!

I left a message for the principal that I want to speak with him. This is what I have had to deal with since we came here 5 years ago – and this is one of the good, progressive schools in the city! On top of all this, the kids are FORCED to namaz (pray) from the 1stgrade. They also have to attend ALL religious ceremonies usually during their recess times or during art or P.E. class. Now, I am not one of the mom’s who thinks yelling at kids is good or that having an abusive teacher is good. I also don’t believe that religion should be forced. I also don’t make my kids over study to the point where I have to drug them to sit still in order to study. But I am not most moms here. When a teacher tells the moms that she yells or that she gives an unbearable amount of homework (or when my son’s teacher told the moms that 4th grade is the worst grade in school) – a lot of moms nod approvingly and support the teacher.

So with all this pressure from the families (that starts from birth) and from the schools throughout the kids lives, and then the society with it forced religious veneer – is it any wonder that some kids run away; that some kids turn to drugs; that some kids outright rebel? I actually give kids here a lot of credit for finding some way to escape the repression that constantly drowns them. (And I am not even talking about this summer’s events).

What Sunni Insurgency?

The Washington Post reports that a suicide bomber attacked in Iran today, and that it was the “Sunni insurgency.”

My first thought was that some one in the Associated Press must have mixed up their consonants, and  they were talking IraQ, not IraN.  Especially with this talk of Sunni insurgency: why are they using the Iraq-war terminology to describe this event?  Iran did not just occupy the southern-most tip of their own country, that has been Iran for thousands of years.

The second thought was: A suicide bombing makes no cultural sense when talking about Iranian civilians.  Although Iran and the words “suicide bomber” have been in the news together before, it is usually about an “Iranian-backed” group, not an Iranian.  I think the world may have come to know Iranian civilians a bit this summer, when we watched them pour into the streets wearing green, hold peace signs, and take the beatings.  What I am saying is that, in general, Iranians are too life-loving and too skeptical to explode in hopes of an afterlife.  If they hadn’t stood up in protest this summer, I’d characterize them as  a people who’d rather protest passive-aggressively by reading poetry on the value of suffering (Rumi), complain ad nauseam, or do opium.

The third thought was: shit.  Just when Iranians started to advocate for a better life, the external enemy that would justify on-going repression arrives.  The U.S. and others exerted self restraint and have not allowed themselves to be the poster-boy enemies that the Islamic Republic of Iran is looking for.  So, now they have some suicide-bombing enemy to force Iranians into subjugation in fear of.  Very reminiscent of when Iraq invaded Iran right after the Iranian revolution in 1979.  The Iran-Iraq War helped solidify the Islamic Regime’s hold because everyone was so focused on the war.

Just when you stand, something else knocks you down.

Why can’t we  live our little lives, study for our high school dimplomas, look for someone to marry, have a kid or two and pray to see grandkids.  If lucky, it’d be nice to throw in friendship, a little gossip, a little poetry and dance.  Lucky, but not essential.

No matter what poppy field or opium route or oil mine lays on that ground some person exploded themself for, maybe it is worth letting it go.  I don’t know if I mean that, but I’m just saying.  Either we let the land go in the name of war, or a whole new generation of boys.

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